In this guide, you’ll find an expert opinion on whether you should cut off a friend you have feelings for.
If you have feelings for a friend, you should cut them off if you can’t bear the thought of them being with someone else in front of you. You can keep them as a friend only if you’re completely comfortable with them dating someone else.
We’ll look deeper at this basic rule in the guide below.
Should You Cut Off Someone Who Friendzones You?
You should cut them off if your romantic feelings are overwhelming and painful.
For some people, it can be so frustrating to be around a crush who doesn’t have feelings for them and only wants a friendship. In most cases, this happens when you have no other romantic opportunities in your life.
- Is the thought of this person kissing someone else in front of you unbearable?
- Does the fact they don’t want you hurt your self-esteem?
- Do you see yourself trying to make a move on them again in the future?
If so, you should cut them off. You are not ready to be their friend. This friendship is going to do more harm than good.
You can keep this person as a friend if your feelings for them are manageable.
For some people, it’s more than possible to be around a crush without being overly frustrated at their lack of romantic interest. In most cases, this is how you’ll feel when you’re dating other women, or you’re at least confident in your ability to do so in the near future.
- Can you handle the thought of this person kissing someone in front of you?
- Do you have a healthy level of self-esteem, even though they doesn’t want you.
- Are you excited about keeping them as a friend and nothing more?
- Do you think you can eventually date someone better than them anyway?
If so, you can keep this woman as a friend. Most likely, this friendship will be more beneficial than letting this woman go.
Advice For Guys: Social Proof Can Be A Dating Superpower
If you’re a guy, it’s good to have attractive female friends in your social circle. Take them to the bar with you, and invite them to parties with you. Hopefully they’ll return the favor.
This social proof will peak women’s interest more than anything else, because it’s arguably the most reliable indicator that you’re worth talking to. It signals to other women that you’re probably a fun guy. At the very least, it’ll show them you’re safe to hang out with.
However, if all your female friends are women you desperately wish you could sleep with, that’s likely to eat at your self-esteem enough to erode any benefits of social proof.
In this case, the women around you will sense your desperation. Bad women will use it to make you do them favors or spend money on them. Good women will feel uncomfortable around this energy and not want to spend as much time with you.
If You’re Always Getting Friendzoned…
If you’re always getting friendzoned, it’s most likely because you’re not displaying enough masculine energy around the women you want. Instead, you’re probably showing weak, flimsy, ‘nice guy’ energy, which naturally repels feminine women.
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If you’re too desperate to date a friend, you have nothing to lose by cutting them off. Desperation is the least attractive trait someone can show, so there’s basically no chance this person will ever date you. And you don’t want them as a friend anyway.
The only way you EVER have a chance with them is by cutting them off. This will show you’re not as desperate as they thought. Maybe they’ll reach out to you in the future. Don’t count on it though.
If your feelings for this person are controllable, keep them as a friend. If you’re a guy, use the social proof to attract more women. This is how the rich get richer in terms of dating.
Im Joe, and I travel the world working as a dating expert, confidence coach, and writer. I have written articles for the web’s most popular dating advice blogs and published two well-received books on dating and relationships. The Thrill Of The Chase is one of the books i’ve written.