“I Want A Girlfriend” – Here Is How You Can Get One

Welcome to your step-by-step guide teaching you how to get an amazing girlfriend. 

To get a great girlfriend, you’ll first need to work on yourself to become an attractive man. From there, you need to meet a ton of women, date a lot of them and settle down with the best one, once she asks you to be in a committed relationship. 

In this guide, you’ll learn why all of these steps are so important and how to complete them effectively. So, let’s dive in.  

To Attract A Woman, You Must Become Attractive

This is the most important step if you want a girlfriend, but so many men try to skip it. 

It’s no use trying to land dates and find a girlfriend, if you’re not the type of guy who women would want to be in a relationship with.

This isn’t just about what you look like either. That’s one aspect of being attractive, but definitely not the most important part. 

Women are more interested in what type of person you are, especially when they’re looking for a long-term relationship. 

Here are some of the qualities women typically want their boyfriend to have: 

• fun;
• success;
• strength;
• bravery;
• a good sense of humor;
• confidence;
• charisma;
• intelligence;
• leadership skills;
• assertiveness;
• ambition;
• passion;
• an interesting and exciting life that she’d want to be a part of.

Most of these qualities are indicators of masculinity – and that’s why feminine women are attracted to them.

It’s true that women are also looking for a boyfriend who is loving, caring, dedicated and supportive, but this isn’t enough on its own. A lot of men make the mistake of showing a woman these feminine qualities before a woman has noticed any of their attractive masculine qualities. This rarely inspires a woman to want to date you. At best, she’ll say she only sees you as a friend. At worst, she’ll be embarrassed or disgusted by this feminine behavior. 

It’s incredibly feminine for a man to obsess over his appearance too. Sure, it helps to be well-dressed, and well-groomed with a fit and muscular body, but if you’re too focused on this, it could put some women off. Some younger women will be happy to date you just because you’re ‘hot’, but it’s rare they’ll be excited to stay in a relationship with you if you don’t have enough of the personality traits listed above. 

Even if you have a lot of these masculine qualities, you can always improve yourself more. The more of these qualities you develop, the more attractive you’ll become, the greater choice of amazing women who want to be your girlfriend you can enjoy.

The More Women You Meet, The More Likely You’ll Meet Your Soulmate

A lot of TV shows and movies spread the feel-good message that ‘there is someone for everyone’ and that ‘your soulmate is coming, you just need to be patient’.

This makes their audience feel warm and happy inside, but it’s inaccurate and harmful for a couple of key reasons. 

First of all, it teaches people that they don’t have to work on improving themselves, even when they’re objectively unattractive. 

Secondly, it suggests that you can sit at home watching TV every evening and that your soulmate will still magically appear out of nowhere.

If you want to find a girlfriend, you need to be proactive about going out to meet women. The more women you meet, the more likely you’ll find one who likes you. 

If you’re a social person who is good at making friends, that’s going to aid your chances of landing a girlfriend. Remember, women like men who have interesting and exciting lives. An active social life can snowball for you too. The more friends you have, the more of their female friends they can introduce you to. 

As a Man, It’s Up To You To Make Romance Happen

It’s not enough for you to be a social person who is out and about all the time.

As a man, it’s also up to you to make the first move and invite the women you like out on a date.

Few women are brave enough to make the first move and many will find it unattractive if you’re too scared to do it.

Sure, this means you might have to face some romantic rejections over the course of your life, but that’s not as bad as missing out on dating your crush because you were too afraid to make a move. 

Remember, women like confident and assertive men, so you should be proud to ask a woman out on a date if you’re attracted to her. 

There’s no need to ‘wait for a sign’ before asking her out. A lot of women who would go out with you won’t give you these signs, especially if they don’t know you so well. So, your best bet is to ask a woman out at the first opportunity you get. The fact you were bold enough to do so might be enough to convince her to give you a shot.

Meeting Women In Real Life Is A Modern Dating Cheat Code

So many men – from younger generations especially – are relying on digital platforms such as dating apps to fuel their love lives these days.

It would appear that most younger guys are either too afraid to approach women in real life, or they have no idea how to do it in a smooth and respectful way. 

Either way, if you’re brave and charismatic enough to meet women in the real world, you should use this to your advantage. This can be enough to make you stand out as a real catch in the modern day, especially if you’re able to charm a woman when you’re sober in everyday environments.

Most cool guys are able to attract hotter women in real life than online. This is because they can show off their attractive personality instantly in face-to-face interactions. 

Dating apps are a useful tool, but you can only really show off your appearance on these. This usually leaves fun and charismatic guys being overlooked in favor of their better-looking counterparts.

If You Do Use Online Dating, Choose Your Website Wisely  

Not all dating apps are created equally. Your choice of online dating service can have a huge impact on how successful you are at attracting matches. 

Most guys blindly choose whatever website is most popular in their country. This is a good strategy to maximize the amount of women who see your profile. However, most mainstream dating apps adopt the fast-and-furious swiping system, which heavily favors the best-looking men and leaves average guys fighting for scraps.

If you’re looking for a serious relationship, I’d highly recommend trying out eHarmony. This website requires members to take an extensive personality test before completing their registrations and will then work to match them with the most compatible members in their area. 

Some 70% of eHarmony users find their spouse on the website within a year, so this method is clearly effective. If you’re looking for a girlfriend who you’d eventually like to marry, there is no better tool at your disposal.

Whatever online dating service you choose, it’s imperative to have high-quality photos so you stand out from the crowd. The best way to do this is to invest in a professional photoshoot with a photographer who knows how to make portrait photos pop! There are more photographers who specialize in online dating out there now than ever before. 

While you’re at it, make sure to read Ice White’s book ‘The Message Game’ as a guide to help you write more engaging messages on dating apps. This book is packed with tried-and-tested lines, which are illustrated via screenshots from the author’s own dating life. I can vouch for the strategies in this book. These are what I use to inspire women from dating apps to meet me.     

Date Casually For A While. Don’t Settle For The First Woman Who Likes You

If you don’t have much experience with women, it can be tempting to try and get into a relationship with the first woman who likes you, but this is unlikely to be good for you in the long run.

It’s rare that this first woman will be the best one you’ll ever attract, especially if you’re committed to continue improving yourself. 

It’s nearly always better for you to date several women casually for a while. This will give you a stronger idea of what type of woman you most like to date and help you to choose the most compatible girlfriend to settle down with.

What’s more, this will make women more attracted to you. Deep down, a woman wants to have to fight for you to commit to her. This is an honest signal that you’re a worthy partner – as nothing good in life comes easy. You should be the one who waits for her to ask you to be her boyfriend, for the same reason.  

If you’re the one desperately trying to win her attention and tie her down, this often comes across as too desperate and will usually make a woman think twice about dating you at all. If she does agree to be your girlfriend, you can bet she won’t treat you as well as she would have if she had to fight for you. 

After being dumped by my ex-girlfriend, I used to be desperate for a relationship with anyone who would have me. That’s part of the reason why I used to repel women for so long after my break-up. My book ‘The Thrill Of The Chase’ features detailed advice for how I learned to enjoy the single life and start dating the women I always wanted. 

Choose The Woman Who Fits Best With Your Personality And Your Life Goals

Once you find an attractive woman who fits in well with your day-to-day life, don’t be afraid to dive into a committed relationship with her.

In most cases, this woman won’t straight-up ask: “Do you want to be my boyfriend?”

Instead, she may subtly bring up the topic with questions like “what are we?” or “where do you see this going?”

If you’re ready, feel free to suggest that you’re excited to commit to her and be her boyfriend. 

If she’s the one who asked the question, she’ll almost definitely be jumping for joy at the fact that she finally tied you down. So, enjoy the moment! You have a girlfriend now. 

Final Thoughts

This is an extensive guide for a process which a lot of guys manage without too much effort. 

The thing is: few guys end up in relationships that last the test of time. This guide is about how to find a great girlfriend who you want to spend your life with.

This might involve a bit more work at the front end, but it will be worth it in the long run.