Are you wondering how good is EHarmony for men?
EHarmony is proven to be the number one dating website for men and women looking for true love. This is because it does things so differently to the other popular dating apps, where most average men tend to struggle to connect with anyone.
In this guide, we’ll explore how EHarmony is so unique in the way it connects single men and women – and why this is so much more effective than the swiping systems deployed by most mainstream dating apps.
Why EHarmony is Your Best Chance of Online Dating Success
EHarmony was founded way back in 2000, but it remains the most effective dating website when it comes to helping you find your true love.
Some 69% of men find their future wife on EHarmony within a year of signing up.
Indeed, EHarmony is now responsible for around 4% of marriages in the United States, which is more than any other online dating service.
But how has the website achieved such amazing feats?
The simple answer is: by focusing on PERSONALITY.
The founders created a supremely intelligent algorithm that matches members based on their compatibility.
It requires all members to take a detailed personality test (which takes around 45 minutes to complete) before finalizing their registration.
The results of these tests are used to give the new member a compatibility score, with each existing eHarmony member based on each other’s dating preferences.
You only need to see the success rates of former EHarmony members to understand how accurate this compatibility score is.
However, EHarmony doesn’t just leave their members to it – because it doesn’t want them to get in their own way. If that were to happen, it would take a lot of willpower for men to not message every half-decent-looking woman on the website, leaving all women overwhelmed with hundreds or thousands of messages. In such a situation, it would take just as much restraint for women to only message men with the best muscles, height, jawline (and other factors which have no bearing on whether their relationship will be successful).
Instead, EHarmony forces its members to trust in the intelligence of its algorithm. It selects a handful of the most compatible people for you each day and allows you to message them only. If you want to message more people, you’ll have to wait until the next day.
Let’s imagine that Paul is an average guy, but has the perfect personality for Beth.
- On Tinder (and other similar apps), Beth would most likely overlook Paul based on his photos and her super-fast swiping strategy, where she just chooses the top-tier men. If they did match, Paul would still have to stand out in Beth’s overcrowded inbox, which is packed with ripped and handsome ‘Chads’, waiting for their chance to sleep with her and never call her again.
- On EHarmony, Paul can message Beth because the website matched them. Beth doesn’t have a crowded inbox so she’s more likely to see his message. She’ll see their high compatibility score and would most likely be encouraged to learn more about Paul’s personality. Plus, because her matches are limited, she’ll have more time to send Paul detailed and meaningful messages.
Hopefully, you understand why this system is a huge win for both genders.
Women connect with their dream partner, instead of being endlessly pumped and dumped by top-tier men. Men connect with their dream partner, instead of being ignored by all but the least attractive women.
Are There Any Downsides?
There is a free version of EHarmony, but you aren’t permitted to send messages while you’re a free member.
To message other users, you must upgrade to a premium account and the monthly subscription is significantly more expensive than other online dating websites.
Here are the current prices for members in the United States:
- Premium Light (6 Months): $65.90 per month
- Premium Plus (12 Months): $45.90 per month
- Premium Extra (24 Months): $35.90 per month
The pricing structure is different in other countries. It’s cheaper in Canada and the United Kingdom, for example. But, even there, you’ll pay a lot more than you would for the mainstream swipe-based apps.
However, it’s important to realize that the high price point is part of what makes EHarmony so effective. In many cases, it motivates EHarmony members to take their search for love seriously, because they want a return on this significant investment.
Also, it prices out the men and women who aren’t that serious about finding true love online, saving those who do stump up the cash from wasting their time.
Plus, it’s not really that pricey when you consider that EHarmony is statistically the best shot you’ve got at finding love online.
Would you pay $550.80 for a 69% shot at finding your future spouse? Millions of people have been happy to do that over the years and they’ve been rewarded with their ‘happily ever after’.
Most Men Are Struggling On Online Dating Apps
If you’re a man who is struggling to get attention on mainstream dating apps, you’re not alone.
A study, based on an analysis of Tinder and OKCupid swipes, suggested that the top 78% of attractive women are only going after the top 20% of attractive men.
That leaves average – and even slightly-above average men – competing only for extremely undesirable women.
It’s not uncommon for a decent-looking dude to struggle to land one date with a woman he really wants on these swipe-based apps.
A big reason for this is that men outnumber women heavily on all of these apps – and are rarely picky for who they swipe right on. This has left almost all of the women on these apps being overwhelmed with options and therefore only needing to pay attention to the top-tier candidates.
The result is: a small percentage of ‘Chads’ getting all the dates, but often choosing not to settle down with any of them.
So, while top-tier men are extremely satisfied with mainstream dating apps, most women are not happy (because they’re not getting relationships) and the majority of guys are miserable (because they’re barely getting a smidgen of attention.)
If you’re one of these guys, any alternative method of online dating would surely be worth a shot, because this one clearly isn’t working as intended.
Final Thoughts
Shortly after Tinder made online dating ‘cool’ back in 2012, every single mainstream dating app followed the same formula. Swipe left for ‘No’, swipe right for ‘Yes’ and pay extra for extra reach.
Men rushed to these apps in their hundreds of millions, believing they’d land dates easier than ever before. But that’s only the reality for a small percentage of top-tier men.
It has been proven that EHarmony has the superior formula to help men find true love. If that’s what you’re looking for, the smart move would be to look there.
Im Joe, and I travel the world working as a dating expert, confidence coach, and writer. I have written articles for the web’s most popular dating advice blogs and published two well-received books on dating and relationships. The Thrill Of The Chase is one of the books i’ve written.